Holding a grudge costs more than you think – don’t let it bankrupt your life

Healing old wounds cannot only release stress and help you enjoy the holidays, but make you healthier and happierMary had not been home for eight years. Within the first 15 minutes of being home, those old feelings of inadequacy had crept back into her psyche. How is it that we can grow up, move on to create successful lives, and within 15 minutes of being home we can feel like we are 10 years old again?  

Esther Hicks says that emotional energy is where you last left it. Look at it this way—if the last time you saw your dad it ended with a big upset, then next time the subject of dad comes up that big upset is sitting right there. Some people will live their entire lives with one upset sitting between them and someone they love.

Nothing is more destructive in the human condition than the need to be right. People will give up love, money, success, health, happiness, and even their own life to be right. In order to be right about something, you have to continue to hold on to the energy of whatever upset you in the first place. So who gets hurt—the person you are upset with or you?  

The trick to effectively managing emotions is learning how to effectively manage your energy system. Einstein gave us the famous equation E=Mc2. Energy is on one side of the equation, and everything else is on the other. For centuries, other cultures have recognized that our bodies are composed of energy pathways and energy centers. E-motions are energy in motion. Emotions are meant to be experienced and released. When we feel a need to be right, we hang on to the negative emotion to show that other person how they hurt us. John Upledger, DO, OMM, states that emotions trapped in body tissues can lead to pain and other ailments.1

So how do we move the emotions through our energy system? A very effective way to move the energy out of our bodies is forgiveness. Studies have shown that people who forgive become “less angry, more hopeful, less depressed, less anxious and less stressed,” which leads to greater physical well-being.2

Forgiveness does not mean you condone what the other person did. It is the ability to let go of the need to be right. Oprah Winfrey said this about forgiveness: “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.” The ability to let it go is the liberating gift you give yourself.  

It is also a well-known fact that positive people are healthier, happier, and more successful. So why not free yourself from any grudges or areas of un-forgiveness? You deserve a healthier, happier, and more successful life. 


Author: Debra Kahnen, RN, ND, is the CEO of Life Mastery LLC. With over three decades of healthcare experience—as both a nursing leader in the largest not-for-profit health system in Texas and as a naturopath focusing on wellness—her view is radically different. Debra is a renowned expert in stress management and wellness. She helps people improve their health and emotional well-being to allow for more peace, joy, and personal satisfaction. Get a free special short video eCourse, "Take back control of your life NOW!, so you can experience more balance and ease in your life.

Article Resources:
[1] John Upledger, Massage Today, June 2008, Vol. 08. Retrieved from http://www.massagetoday.com/ mpacms/mt/article.php?id=13825
[2] Fred Luskin, in Carrie A. Moore, “Learning to Forgive,” Deseret Morning News, Oct. 7, 2006, p. E1.

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