Today is actually a day of celebration. Far too often, in the hectic pace of our daily life, we hardly ever sit down and celebrate the things we have accomplished in life. Those of you who live in this place of chronic stress and push yourselves constantly understand my old world. You keep going and going like the energizer bunny, getting things done and moving to the next. Well, guess what? You accomplished things. And sometimes you may have accomplished big things, and you never even let yourself stop long enough to enjoy it, let alone celebrate it.
Really, the true value in self-improvement work is that once you recognize that you are enough—WOW! You get to slow down. You get to take care of yourself. You get to honor your desires, your passion, your purpose, and your personal gifts. You get to stand strong in your personal boundaries and demand others respect you too. It is an absolute pleasure to take care of yourself and honor your needs spiritually, mentally, and physically.
I think the timing was amazing when I hit the wall and could not even travel because of my pain to go see Margaret Lynch at her Ignite Your Power workshop. Yet doing the live stream of the event at home with one of my dearest friends, I had a huge breakthrough where I let go of my brokenness. I stepped into my personal power and honored my energy. I really fully honored my energy and who I really was for the first time in my life. As a knowledgeable achiever, I was driven to prove I was good enough by my accomplishments. Somehow that never really fills the cup, and you just keep doing and doing. In recognizing and finally being willing to own my charismatic leader quality, I got to BE ME. I did not have to do and do and do and do.
The timing of this new realization came right at the time life had made it almost impossible for me to go back to my old security at the hospital. I was in so much pain I could not walk. Over the two and a half months it took the doctors to figure out what was wrong with me, I was able to accomplish many things. I was able to “clean house.”
I found a therapist and went to maybe six sessions with my 11-year-old son. My son is STRONG willed, and he and I have had challenges. Being just the two of us for 11 years made it difficult to play all roles in his life. I knew teenage years were some of the hardest for a young man, and I wanted him to know I was on his team. I made it clear to the therapist and my son that I knew my son was a good kid, and we were just working on a few behaviors so I would be able to help him through this challenging time of his life. I wanted him to know someone was on his team. I was able to be honest and release years of frustration in just a few sessions as the energy started to shift in our relationship to one of mutual respect—both of us respecting my role as mother and his as a human being.
I had a dog trainer come over and work with my family and me. Our two lab mix dogs that we rescued two years ago as puppies were now controlling the household. She showed me how to claim space and get the dogs to respect me. That really made life easier.
I found it a pleasure to do the things to take care of my body nutritionally and with exercise that at one time I felt was an inconvenience and unpleasant. I used to be so driven it seemed like eating right and exercise took away from what I needed to get done. Now, I get to take care of myself.
I rented an office overlooking the lake and took major steps to create my business. I hired a business and life coach to keep me on track. I receive inspiration daily on how to help other people who are in the same situation I used to be in.
See, if you look at the dynamics of all of my successes, I shifted my energy. I allowed myself to be a fuller expression of who I am. As I honored myself, the environment shifted to honor me too. I love how my friend Bethlyn said that everything is biofeedback. A mirror is biofeedback, a scale is biofeedback, your bank account is biofeedback, your relationships are biofeedback. It is all feedback. You see, as I honored myself, what I saw in life shifted. Life started to line up with my new reality and belief about myself. That is a lot to celebrate.
Author: Debra Kahnen, RN, ND, is the CEO of Life Mastery LLC. With over three decades of healthcare experience—as both a nursing leader in the largest not-for-profit health system in Texas and as a naturopath focusing on wellness—her view is radically different. Debra is a renowned expert in stress management and wellness. She helps people improve their health and emotional well-being to allow for more peace, joy, and personal satisfaction. Get a free special short video eCourse, "Take back control of your life NOW!”, so you can experience more balance and ease in your life.