Do you ever notice that when you start to set an intention to create something new the first thing you might run into is “your stuff”—“your mental garbage.” Sometimes the mind and emotions can play tricks on us. They direct us to the reasons why we should not go after our big dreams. Look at the facts. Not enough time. Not enough money. Don’t have the right education or credentials. You aren't smart enough. You aren't talented enough. You cannot achieve it. The odds are against you. I don’t know what to do. It didn’t work the last time. I’m too old. These beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies.
These beliefs can stop you from even discovering what you truly want. If you know what you want, they act as rationalizations and justifications for not moving forward.
The mind is a wonderful tool that can serve us in many ways. The most important thing to understand about the mind is that it does not want to be wrong. The mind is like a huge supercomputer and operates on the information that has been programmed into the computer.
How does this programming affect your life?
This programming creates a reality built of things you believe to be true. Do you think your reality may be different than Warren Buffet or Oprah Winfrey? Sure. Look around at what is in your life. Is it different than theirs? You can discover your current reality by examining what is in your life. That is the programming that is in your computer. The most important thing to understand is that if you are not completely happy with your current reality you absolutely have the power to change it. You just have to know how to change the programming.
The more hidden the programming, the more powerful it is. If you have been working for years to create something that always seemed outside your reach, your programming may be working against you.
What are some signs that you are running into old programming when you set your intention?
- You are just suddenly so tired it takes extreme effort to stay awake or move your body.
- Suddenly you decide that the goal was just not that important to you, or you have a better goal.
- You will notice unimportant things suddenly becoming very important. For example, winter is coming and you decide you have to clean out the garage. Or all of a sudden it is urgent that you have to clean out your files so you can find things.
- All of a sudden there are too many burning issues to work on the goal.
- You know exactly the next step to your success and avoid doing it.
Even without changing the programming, you have the power to control your mind in the present. You are able to control your mind by the questions you pose to it or things you focus on. If you consistently ask yourself, “Why can’t I be successful?,” your mind will help you come up with a bunch of reasons or justifications. For fun ask yourself, “Why can’t I be successful?” What kind of answers did you get? Now ask yourself, “What do I need to do to move to the next level of success?” What kind of answers did you get that time?
Are you seeing the difference? If you continually tell yourself, “I don’t have enough time,” your mind will oblige and you will find yourself busy on a bunch of things that do not move you to your goal. But if instead you ask your mind, “What do I need to do to make this successful?,” your mind will help you reveal solutions. Or you ask, “How can I manage my time more efficiently so I can reach my goal?” The mind again will help you reveal solutions. Remember the mind is the most powerful tool in helping you achieve your dreams. It can also be just as powerful in stopping you from achieving your dreams. With that in mind, pay close attention to the questions you are asking your mind and the directions you are giving it.
The mind also has a job to filter out most information coming in to keep you from being overwhelmed.
This is most obvious when you are trying to solve a problem. Let’s say you decide you need a new car. Now all of a sudden you are noticing all the car dealerships and sales ads about cars. But when you were not looking for a new car, you would have just driven by the dealerships and skipped right past the ads without noticing.
The same works for goals. If you present the goal to the mind it will be observing the environment for solutions or opportunities that align with your goal. If you are having doubts that you can accomplish the goal, it will also be observant for things in the environment that can back that up.
So the most important thing to realize is that you are the director and the mind is merely a tool. You might want to write that down. “I am the director of my life.”
Author: Debra Kahnen, RN, ND, is the CEO of Life Mastery LLC. With over three decades of healthcare experience—as both a nursing leader in the largest not-for-profit health system in Texas and as a naturopath focusing on wellness—her view is radically different. Debra is a renowned expert in stress management and wellness. She helps people improve their health and emotional well-being to allow for more peace, joy, and personal satisfaction. Get a free special short video eCourse, "Take back control of your life NOW!”, so you can experience more balance and ease in your life.